Poor parenting is a serious problem today.

Parents have a huge responsibility.

Much bigger than many realise.

Have a read of this article:

So are YOU posher than your parents? The key to social mobility is having a devoted and determined family

It’s an interesting, moving and thought-provoking story. At the end, the author writes:

I had a lump in my throat as I thought to myself that my dear dad should never thank me for anything. He and my mum — who sadly passed away last year following a battle with Alzheimer’s — sacrificed everything to enable me to go out, make money and enjoy the finer things in life.

And they taught me, too, the three things a child needs to make a success of their life: Love, encouragement and an unbreakable work ethic.

I want to home in on this: “three things a child needs to make a success of their life: Love, encouragement and an unbreakable work ethic.”

In my case, both my parents had a good work ethic, which I also have. Neither of them loved me however and both actively discouraged me. My wife, who has met both of them, says that she doesn’t think my parents ever loved me, based on HER independent observations of their behavior. Personally, I have no doubt that both my parents hated/hate me.

All that said, I am very fortunate to have had such ghastly parents & received poor parenting!

This is because I overcame what they did to me, took responsibility for fixing myself and got healing for my mental illness (which was caused by what happened to me as a kid, including poor parenting).

I know a deep peace & joy now, and having observed many people with a good start in life, have realised that I am much better off inside than even them. The only area I am still catching up on is the financial damage which partly resulted from many years struggling with mental health issues. Without such awful parents I would never have discovered what I know today – I am thus grateful for my parents.

Unfortunately, most people who have such a bad start in life suffer terrible life outcomes. I nearly did too.

Today I help others who had a similar poor parenting experience. As I have been there and done it myself, I have experience and understanding that you cannot learn from a book, class, lecture or buy with money.

If you want help with issues that stem from poor parenting, contact me here.

What kind of parent are you?

Do you have concerns about your parenting style. Perhaps you need some parenting advice, or parenting tips? Perhaps you mean well but make too many mistakes and want to improve your parenting skill? If so, get in touch and get help. Besides the obvious benefits, you will learn things which will help you in other areas of your life also.

“No success in public life can compensate for failure in the home” – Benjamin Disraeli

You may have noticed that generally, people find few true, genuine friends or people in life. Down the years I found few who really cared and/or helped. I am grateful for those that did and for those that didn’t (the latter helped me become stronger).

I am especially grateful to these kind souls:

Jean & Wilf – my paternal grandparents.

Trevor – Wilf’s brother.

RSM Potter.

Mr Osborne.

Grace Hayward.

Val Beale.

Sarah B.

Dr Joy Harrison M.D.

Carol Wright.

Colonel Terry P.

Martin Jones.

WO2 Day.

Patricia Fast.

Rosamond H.

Pete Middlemas – RMCdo.

Kevin & Fiona Cruickshank.

Peter Booth.

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And deliberately so.

Intriguing, with an appeal to the selfish side which exists in all of us.

One of the aims of this article is to help the world – and your world – become a better place.

Another is to help you. You see, when we are kind to others as a habit, we are helping ourselves.

We will feel happier, nicer things will happen to us, we will experience less stress and be healthier.

So, what is kindness?

Wikipedia has an entry for kindness which includes:

Kindness is the act or the state of being kind —ie. marked by goodness and charitable behaviour, mild disposition, pleasantness, tenderness and concern for others. It is known as a virtue, and recognized as a value in many cultures and religions (see ethics in religion).

Some words which encapsulate kindness include: courtesy, tenderness, grace, hospitality, tact, sweetness, decency, understanding, tolerance, benevolence, unselfishness, goodness, caring, decency, sympathy and charity/philanthropy.

Have a think about how you can use some of these words to help you become kinder.

Ask yourself how you measure up.

This week – 14th to 20th February – is the Random Acts of Kindness week. More information here on the Random Acts Of Kindness Foundation website. You can follow them on Twitter here: @RAKFoundation and Like them on Facebook here.

You might also like to check out: Australian Kindness Movement, Making a Difference through the Power of Kindness.

Enjoy your day, your week, your month, your year. Be kind.

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I encourage you to watch this video – it contains top notch content about how you can enrich and improve your life.

In fact, if you have any of the issues mentioned in the video, I recommend that you watch the video regularly.

I can vouch for what Bob says too. He is spot on.

Just make sure that you take action.

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Perhaps someone is still doing this to you.

If so, have a read about Willard Wigan MBE.

Willard Wigan is learning disabled and does not even know how to read or write, yet he has an MBE. Willard says that his childhood teachers made him feel small, like nothing. (They must have been such a bunch of creeps).

Willard Wigan is a gifted and creative individual; creator of the world’s smallest sculptures, which usually take months to complete. Willard works between heartbeats to avoid hand tremors! He achieves this by entering a meditative state. He paints the sculptures using a hair from a dead fly, which died of natural causes.

What a guy!

And his teachers were so wrong.

Willard turned an unpleasant and mentally damaging situation into a very positive one.

I know you will want to find out more; so here are the links:

Wikipedia – Willard Wigan

Willard Wigan’s Website

Interesting CNET article: Photos: Sculpture on the head of a pin

Enjoy!

Some readers may have wondered why I wrote the word made as ‘made’ in the first sentence of this post.

I did so because the truth is that no one makes you feel a certain way. YOU make YOURSELF feel like that.

For more information on this critical aspect of personal development check out this article on my website:

Nobody made you angry

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Do you have trouble keeping up the momentum?

Do you need lots of coffee (read caffeine) to make those 7am starts and keep going?

Perhaps you should consider a different way……

Here’s how you can build better business relationships more easily.

Personally I take the view that it is better to work with ‘natural life flow’, than against it.

Just some examples:

Early morning meetings can go against the body (hence coffee desire) and the mind (think preoccupation with day ahead).

A business meeting? Is that what you really need?

A social meeting (of business people) is perhaps better – get to know people socially – like people – make friends – build rapport – build trust – relaxed atmosphere – enjoy. Results will include long-term trusting business relationships. But hey, we did not have a ‘starched’ business meetup. So what.

Why make life hard?

Next time you decide to do some business networking, consider arranging something which builds on relationships in a relaxed environment.

And remember to look for opportunities to work with ‘natural life flow’ in all aspects of life. Work with the powers/laws of nature, psychology, philosophy, human nature. Study them.

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Joy can be so elusive.

Joy can be confusing.

You may not even know what a real joy is really like.

Some people think that joy equates to getting everything that they want. (Selfishness).

There are many different definitions and opinions about joy.

Then there is the issue of how deeply joy is felt known and experienced.

Is joy a ‘head concept’ for you perhaps? Something which just exists in your mind without a deep inner knowing which permeates every part of your being.

Others have some kind of religious conceptualization of joy.

Seeking joy and happiness are key goals of many. Unfortunately most get lost somewhere along the way and fail to find the real secrets to experiencing true joy. (This is one reason selfishness is so appealing).

Recently I decided to focus on helping people in the areas which I have greatest expertise. One of these is joy and happiness. It is my ‘niche’. I have world class expertise and experience.

This is not some kind of idle boast (I cherish humility anyway) – I have been through mental fires that few survive. I know what it is to move from being a person who wished that he was dead with so much gusto that I felt ‘pickled’ in it (I was too scared to kill myself) to one which knows a deep joy beyond the comprehension of most.

As it happens, helping others to experience real joy is a deep passion of mine. Some reasons include my awareness that when we fix the joy quotient (JQ) in our lives, many other things start going right also.

So, I chose the name Joy Wizard….

“Joy Wizard” sums me, and the help I provide, up very neatly.

Wizard is a word which many can relate to and at times it can also mean a Shaman. Whilst I am indeed a Shaman, the help I provide works regardless of a person’s religious or spiritual perspective. This is partly because it is based on principles which transcend religious beliefs and instead is rooted in fundamental life ‘code’ and psychology.

I know stuff which works!

Click here to go to the Joy Wizard website.

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Have a careful think about how you can improve your life, and the lives of people you interact with, in the light of this quote.

Quotes can be very useful personal development and life enrichment ‘tools’. I like to learn about the people behind quotes too (I am a Philosopher after all).

William Penn was an interesting early ‘American’. We can learn much from these ‘sages’ of old. In fact smart people learn as much as they can from people who have gone before them.

I quote from Wikipedia:

William Penn (October 14, 1644 – July 30, 1718) was an English real estate entrepreneur, philosopher, and founder and “absolute proprietor” of the Province of Pennsylvania, the English North American colony and the future U. S. State of Pennsylvania. He was an early champion of democracy and religious freedom, notable for his good relations and successful treaties with the Lenape Indians. Under his direction, the city of Philadelphia was planned and developed.

Be sure to read more about this fascinating fellow, who had such a powerful influence on early American history.

And don’t forget…you only have this minute, this day, this week…..once! You will not pass this way again.

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