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Happiness On The Inside – Fixes For Mind, Emotion, Soul & Spirit

Alex Webley — Sun, 27 Mar 2011 12:03:03 +0000

Thank you for taking the time to visit my website.

My name is Alex Webley and this website is about YOU – not me.

Why is my site about you?

A big, important question with a big answer – and one which I have simplified:

YOU are the most important person in YOUR life.

YOU have a series of issues which need improvement.

The issues might be personal, or perhaps business or work related.

YOU want to know how I can help you. I will explain.

My focus is upon helping YOU.

My reasons for my focus include my understanding of how people work and how the world really works.

Because I am YOU focused it gives me greater ability to help you.

The title of this website states:

Feel Happy On The Inside – Fixes For Mind, Emotion, Soul And Spirit

A big claim, I know.

I will summarise simply and briefly:

1) I know how to help you achieve deep & permanent change in thinking, feelings, emotions and actions.

A very big claim!

Yes, indeed.

I know how to work on the deep emotional parts as well as the logical.

Just trying to fix the logical level is not sufficient.

How do I know this?

Because I have been there and done it myself.

Yes I am well read, having completed extensive study, however that is not the main source of my knowledge and experience.

Remember, I said I would keep it simple and brief….

I had a very bad start in life – poor parenting which included psychological, emotional and physical abuse (not sexual). Coupled with a sensitive psyche, deafness and undiagnosed asthma I became a very dysfunctional and emotionally retarded youth suffering from mental illness.

Not surprisng huh?

Today I have deep peace and joy. I do not have to ‘work’ at being happy. I did it all without drugs – not even anti depressants. I found out what REALLY works and LASTS.

These days I help all kinds of people – both men and women – from all walks of life….

….with life coaching, executive coaching, counselling, mind healing and more…..

Business people, managers, wealthy people, employees, people in stressful occupations, professionals, lawyers, accountants, doctors, architects, military people, housewives or house husbands, self employed and more.

A ‘feather in my cap’ is that I was once asked by a well connected friend for advice on whether he should take his new girlfriend to a private dinner with the Prime Minister (I won’t say which country for privacy & security reasons).

I have come a long way since my youth. Fancy a chap like me consulting on the Prime Minister’s guest list!

Most people with my type of start in life don’t make it back, let alone achieve deep peace and happiness.

For more: When A Psychologist Or Psychiatrist Or Counsellor Is Not An Expert

2) I am good at thinking and at solving problems.

Lateral thinking and Philosophy are second nature to me.

I have an in depth grasp, experience and understanding of core life wisdom. Much is actually very simple.

There is a beauty about simplicity.

I have a key focus on finding truth and am not interested in my own opinion for its own sake.

A humble mindset is a key to power and wisdom.

Results are key. Results are a must. And as quickly as possible.

After all, how much of the rest of YOUR life do you want to waste?

My Promise

I will personally show you how to achieve deep and permanent change in your life.

You will be able to use the knowledge on your own for the rest of your life whenever you want.

My methods are simple, safe, easy to use and powerful.

When you have experienced them, you will not be able to forget them.

Alex Webley

Life Coach – Counsellor - Executive Coach – Shaman

Get Help Today

0421 27 28 29

alex@joywizard.com

From outside Australia dial: + 61 421 27 28 29

“The illiterate of the 21st century will not be those who cannot read and write, but those who cannot learn, unlearn, and relearn.” – Alvin Toffler

“The period of greatest gain in knowledge and experience is the most difficult period in one’s life.” – Dalai Lama

“The significant problems we face can never be solved at the level of thinking of the problem.” - Albert Einstein

“There are in the world 2 powers, the sword & the spirit. The spirit has always vanquished the sword”. – Napoléon Bonaparte

Happiness On The Inside – Fixes For Mind, Emotion, Soul & Spirit is a post from: Joy Wizard Blog

A Christian with no inner peace of mind?

Alex Webley — Sun, 23 Jan 2011 01:40:58 +0000

Christian peace of mind?

The Christian hotelier found guilty of gay bias looks set to lose her home and asks: So who’s really being persecuted?

Mrs Bull, the Christian hotelier, is quoted as saying about her Christian husband Peter Bull:

“The uncertainty of the future would take Peter down. He doesn’t cope well with stress.”

This is interesting, but not unexpected or surprising. Christians make much of having a ‘relationship’ with God, the peace that goes with it, faith and certainty of God’s help.

These Christians were found guilty of discrimination. Their religion causes their discrimination, but seems not to enable Peter to experience inner peace of mind. Doesn’t he know deep in his bones that God loves him? How can he love others if he does not know he is loved himself? Perfect love casteth out fear – 1 John 4:18.

So, we have religious dogma without love. Nasty eh! And sad.

Disclaimer: I am not gay, or bi and have never even had a fantasy of that nature. My point is aimed at the religiosity.

If you are a Christian without peace of mind – there are many (I have ‘inside’ knowledge because I was once a Christian minister) – and want help, please get in touch.

I provide help with Christian ‘exit counselling‘ (also known as strategic intervention therapy, cult intervention or thought reform consultation). Involvement with Christian activities and Christian churches can cause, and exacerbate, a wide range of emotional, psychological, spiritual and financial problems. In some cases, extremely serious mental health issues can arise. Many Christian cults exist – they can appear to be very benign and harmless. Often the surface impression can appear to be good, and it is only later that you realize that you are in the grip of a Christian cult.

I have in depth personal experience of how involvement with Christian churches, church-folk and Christian thinking or beliefs can damage your mind, relationships, finances and life in general. To get help, contact me here.

I am located on the Gold Coast, Queensland, Australia, in Southport, however I can help you via phone and/or video link even if you are overseas.

Note: By Christian cults I do not simply mean Mormons, Jehovah’s Witnesses or similar – I include many churches in this definition – places where cult type behaviour exists. This Wikipedia article will give you some pointers as to how to identify a cult and you will see many similarities with Christian churches, especially the charismatic, Pentecostal, ‘Full Gospel’ varieties.

A Christian with no inner peace of mind? is a post from: Joy Wizard Blog

When A Psychologist Or Psychiatrist Or Counsellor Is Not An Expert

Alex Webley — Thu, 02 Dec 2010 01:35:44 +0000

Today I came across a disturbing story about the failure of mental health professionals to correctly diagnose and treat a psychotic drug addict who then shortly afterward went on to kill a pensioner.

Mother begged for psychotic drug addict son to be sectioned just days before he knifed a pensioner to death

I quote:

Mental health workers refused to section him just four days before the tragedy in April 2007 – despite pleas from his elderly mother, who he had ‘bullied and threatened’.

Despite having previous convictions for violence, experts assured her he was not a risk to himself or others.

Apparently, the ‘experts’ thought that the offender was not a threat.

This kind of disastrous conclusion by so called mental health ‘experts’ is not isolated. We cannot pass it off as some kind of rare instance.

A rational person then is going to have some serious doubts as to the ‘expert’ status of some members of the psychiatric or psychology professions. Indeed, because these disasters are worryingly common, it is no surprise that significant portions of society have little faith in psychiatrists, psychologists, counselors (counsellors), therapists and similar.

In this case, it appears that even people with a modicum of ‘common sense’ would have known that the offender was a severe risk. And that is even without the urging and prompting of the offender’s mother.

For more insight into misdiagnosis by mental health professionals, (I guess I should not call them ‘experts’ now should I?), I suggest that you read up on the Rosenhan experiment.

One of the reasons psychiatrists can prescribe mind-altering drugs is because most (mental health professionals) cannot alter the deep seated thinking underlying mental disorders. Drugs, which can be an effective ‘band aid’ type fix in some cases, are an easy way of giving some people a sense of normalcy. The scope of this article does not include an in depth exploration of issues surrounding psychiatric drugs – I have mentioned it because it is yet another example of the short comings of the mental health ‘sciences’ in assisting people to have a real resolution to their mental health issues.

Years ago, when I had mental health issues, I was offered prescribed drugs. I never took them. One reason was because I knew that the drugs would simply mask the real issues and not effect a cure. I understood that I needed to destroy the ‘tap roots’ of my mental issues, not cover them up or avoid them. Another reason I refused the drugs is that I had rational grounds for hope concerning another way of resolving my issues.

Simply speaking, people in the community who have mental health issues often have to rely on ‘experts’ who are not real experts and who often cannot provide a real fix to underlying issues, especially if those issues are serious. Many psychologists, for example, will tell you (if they are honest) that they can not fix the deep seated thoughts people have. Yes, they can devise strategies for coping, and sometimes admirably so, however, how much better it is to destroy the underlying problem.

Keep reading this blog; because I will be writing at length (and producing videos) about how YOU can fix your deep mental health issues – whether they be depression, anxiety, panic attacks, obsessive compulsive thoughts and so on.

Why can I do this?

It is remarkably straightforward.

I have been there and done it myself. I have recovered from serious mental health issues and know what works.

Let me illustrate using a simple analogy or metaphor….

If you were in the army and being attacked by a strong enemy force, would you prefer your buddies to be battle hardened combat veterans or inexperienced people fresh out of officer training school? I know whom I would prefer.

Ask yourself why….

One reason will be because a battle hardened combat veteran knows what they are doing due to extensive personal experience.

I am a veteran of overcoming mental health problems and as such can lead others to freedom. I did not learn it all, or most of it, from a book or course.

So, who do you want on your team?

When A Psychologist Or Psychiatrist Or Counsellor Is Not An Expert is a post from: Joy Wizard Blog

Joy Wizard – Feel Happy On The Inside

Alex Webley — Sat, 31 Jul 2010 13:57:38 +0000

Hello, and a warm welcome to my website/blog to both new and old readers.

I am a Life Coach, Executive Coach, Counsellor and Shaman.

This website/blog is primarily about how YOU can:

Feel Happy On The Inside.

Experience Real Joy Despite Your Circumstances.

I know how to help you achieve:

deep and permanent change

in your:

thinking,
feelings,
emotions,
and actions.

How do I know this?

Because I have lived it myself.

Get help for your:

Anxiety
Depression
Unhappiness
Lack of joy
Boredom

When A Psychologist Or Psychiatrist Or Counsellor Is Not An Expert

Be careful which counselor/counsellor you choose

“What you leave behind is not what is engraved in stone monuments, but what is woven into the lives of others.” ~Pericles

Joy Wizard – Feel Happy On The Inside is a post from: Joy Wizard Blog

Who Are The Sexual Predators? – Infographic

Alex Webley — Fri, 28 May 2010 07:47:03 +0000

Via:
Medical Assistant
Schools

Who Are The Sexual Predators? – Infographic is a post from: Joy Wizard Blog

The Truth About Alcoholism – Infographic

Alex Webley — Fri, 28 May 2010 07:33:39 +0000

Via: Medical Insurance

The Truth About Alcoholism – Infographic is a post from: Joy Wizard Blog

Marketing Of Madness – Video. And how you can help yourself.

Alex Webley — Wed, 12 May 2010 08:02:02 +0000

“If you, a loved one, or anyone you know is taking drugs recommend by a MD or Psychiatrist for Anxiety, Depression, Bi-Polar, ADHD, Obsessive Compulsive, Schizophrenia etc… then this film is an absolute must watch.”

- James Colquhoun – Producer Director, ‘Food Matters‘

This is a key documentary on the psychiatric drugging industry. Here is the real story of the high income partnership between psychiatry and drug companies that has created an $80 billion psychotropic drug profit centre. But appearances are deceiving. How valid are psychiatrists diagnoses and how safe are their drugs? Digging deep beneath the corporate veneer, this three-part documentary exposes the truth behind the slick marketing schemes and scientific deceit that conceal dangerous and often deadly sales campaign.

Want to buy the DVD?

Click here and then scroll to the bottom and click on the Movie Store link. The DVD “Marketing Of Madness” is available for USD $15 plus shipping.

If you prefer, you can buy the DVD via Amazon:

The Marketing of Madness Are We all Insane?

Want more information?

Premium Access – Depression & Mental Health Video Lessons

The ‘Premium Access – Depression & Mental Health Video Lessons‘ are an extension of the documentary film ‘Food Matters‘ featuring never before seen footage focusing specifically on Mental Health issues. In a collection of interviews with leading Nutritionists, Naturopaths, Scientists, M.D.’s and Medical Journalists you will discover the secrets to treating and preventing depression and Mental disorders naturally without the dangerous side effects of psychiatric medications.

Marketing Of Madness – Video. And how you can help yourself. is a post from: Joy Wizard Blog

Interesting, unexpected experience when helping client with mediation

Alex Webley — Wed, 28 Apr 2010 02:44:04 +0000

Earlier this month I had to attend a local Court to assist a client with the mediation/arbitration of a dispute.

Some of the reasons I get asked to help clients with this type of thing include:

A good grasp of logical issues, coupled with sensitivity and understanding of deeper ‘touchy feely’ aspects.
My personal presence – aura.
A calming influence. This comes naturally these days because I am in control of my emotions. (Personal note, not related to mediation: I am able to manifest anger, fear or even stupidity at will to suit a situation. King David once pretended to be mad to achieve his aims. If you would like me to teach you how to be truly in control of your inner emotions please get in touch).
Strategic thinking abilities.
My caring concern for clients and their issues.

I had a meeting with the client and another person assisting prior to the mediation. We discussed strategy and some other issues.

At Court the client, myself and the other person mentioned above were surprised by an unexpected development.

As the 3 of us waited, the other party arrived, on his own. When the official mediator summoned us in, I was advised that I could not attend. Without going into lots of detail, the mediator’s underlying motive was that there were 3 of us and 1 of the other party. Initially, the mediator did not bring this up and tried to exclude me on other grounds. In the end, the mediator revealed the true reason. I decided not to argue further points in case it was detrimental to my client. Thus I sat outside for an hour; thankfully with my iPhone.

Frankly I was appalled. Both as a citizen and Philosopher.

To start with, how was the mediator to conclude I was not essential to the case? Or what I had to contribute? The situation was grossly unfair to my client in the guise of helping the other party and being ‘fair’. What hypocrisy!

Additionally, the other party could have brought 2 other people also. This was not our fault. The other party chose to turn up with no other people. Why should WE be penalized for the choice of the other party?

Fortunately my client had been well briefed and supported prior to the mediation by myself, and received excellent assistance within the mediation by the other person he brought with him.

Simply speaking, this incident was yet another example of the namby pamby, goody two shoes, hypocritical and politically correct crap that is poisoning our societies today. I refrained from mentioning to the moderator the two points above because I had the sensitivity to both see that her mind was made up, and that my persistence might be detrimental to my client. Sometimes you win by ‘losing face’ and looking at the wider, bigger picture.

The two points again:

The moderator, without knowing my worth to the client’s case, decided to exclude me.
The other party chose not to exercise the right to bring more people. His fault. Not ours.

And by the way, my client has been treated abysmally by various parties to the issue, yet he (my client) is a very genuine and decent man. My client actually deserved a helping hand.

The trials and tribulations in dealing with bureaucrats! A good opportunity to ‘sharpen the saw’ and improve one’s personal development.

The most appalling thing was not what happened to me, or my client (we got a good result by the way). It is what is happening to society. People like this mediator are slowly poisoning our societal psyche; in a number of ways. It is getting worse. Just one example is that this type of behavior increases the sense of injustice and contempt that people in general are increasingly feeling about the way society is run.

Note: The mediator was not a member of the judiciary. It was not a Court case.

Interesting, unexpected experience when helping client with mediation is a post from: Joy Wizard Blog

Writing and being understood.

Alex Webley — Thu, 08 Apr 2010 07:37:56 +0000

Do we understand each other?

It is all very well to write stuff, but another matter to be understood. Properly understood.

I try to make sure that I write in a way which is understood properly by most people. I try to steer clear of ambiguity too. One of my shortcomings, which I am working on, is that I have an inherent tendency to write in a way which can resemble a dissertation. Ouch! Another big word! This is one reason why some of my writing is an unusual mixture of technical and conversational (colloquial) styles – informal and formal – reverent and irreverent. Another reason is my personality, which is multi facetted and at home with the broad spectrum of society from street people to the upper echelons (toffs?).

The bottom line is that I want to help people, and to do that I need to be understood. This means I write in a way which not all would consider to be professional, but the reality is it’s calculated and purposeful. Often, and increasingly, I write in laid back language which resembles a conversation with the reader.

One technique I use when I write is to think about how I would sound if I said it. Sometimes I read things out loud and if it doesn’t sound right I change it. I do put a lot of effort into thinking about how best to communicate a concept (sorry, an idea). At times I use methods which are not strictly grammatically correct because it makes the copy (what I am writing) flow better. And one of my dark secrets is that I have forgotten a lot of the formalized stuff I was supposed to have learnt at skool about grammar – I tend to write more intuitively from a perspective of being well read; therefore knowing instinctively how to put stuff together. Words to me are a creative thing. An art form even. Words have energy, power and life. But here we are also slipping into another topic.

In case you are wondering, I tend to use American spellings these days – partly because I spend so much time using American applications (software/websites) and communicating with Americans, but also because of search engine optimization (SEO). A classic example is the word counselor (American) and counsellor (UK and Australian/NZ) – if people are typing counselor (into a search engine) then they will miss me if I just use counsellor. Because the American market is so large, and an important part of my customer base, I have to optimize what I write accordingly. That said, I also have to attract Australian readers/customers who use the word counsellor. These dual or American spellings can sometimes seem odd to readers, depending on their perspective, however to reach the broadest audience they are necessary. I expect some people think I can’t spell and didn’t do well at skewl.

As you can see from the above, what I write is also written from the perspective of search engines – in a way; writing stuff is quite a complicated business! And funnily enough – writing about the counselor – counsellor issue in this article will help with the search engines! (Though it wasn’t deliberate! – just a side effect).

I have also noticed a difference in the way I write when I type and when I use dictation software , speaking directly into the computer. I have not researched the issue, however suspect that it has to do with the brain working in a different way when typing or speaking. I know writing stuff out by hand can have a different effect on the brain. Thankfully, you will never see my handwriting – I put many Doctors to shame! (I am always shocked when I see poor doctor’s handwriting – one would think that in such important matters as scripts for example that they would make more of an effort to communicate clearly and ensure people get the right medicine).

Dictation software is a huge productivity driver – if you want to save time writing then check it out here.

Bye for now!

Note: I have used Dragon Naturally Speaking Preferred for years. The manufacturer’s site is here. You can buy direct from the manufacturer, or from Amazon by clicking on the link below. (Hint: you will probably get a better price from Amazon).

Writing and being understood. is a post from: Joy Wizard Blog

Why is a mind virus like a computer virus?

Alex Webley — Mon, 22 Mar 2010 01:39:09 +0000

Mind Virus

I am a lover of simplicity, partly because simple concepts can often illustrate great truths.

These days I expect that most of us are familiar with computer viruses and the damage which they can cause. Many of us may well have suffered the consequences of a computer virus. Computer viruses vary widely in their effects, but treatment is usually quite drastic. Without proper treatment some computer viruses can be very persistent.

I think that most people would probably agree that using a Band-Aid type solution on a computer virus is a waste of time. By a Band-Aid type solution, I mean one which involves treating the symptoms rather than the tap root of the problem. So-called solutions which address surface issues are usually a complete waste of time because the computer virus continues according to the nature of its internal programming. What I call “computer brain surgery” is usually required to correct the issue. The deep-seated computer virus code usually must be removed.

Our minds work in similar ways to computers in the sense that we can have what I term a “mind virus” which causes us to think and behave according to a particular pattern.

The term mind virus is not new – here are some examples: Wikipedia and the Urban Dictionary. In this article I am conceptualising the term mind virus to illustrate the point that many emotional, psychological and even spiritual problems can have their roots in a deep-seated thought pattern so strong that it has key similarities with a computer virus. There are a whole host of so-called and apparent solutions to the problems caused by these mind viruses, however for the particularly bad ones there are few real solutions that really work.

What we need to do of course, is to be able to get at the deep root of the problem so that we can change the internal programming of our minds. Operating at the head level, and using mind altering chemicals, or other similar methods which treat only symptoms will not produce what we really need ( but not all of us want) which is real change.

In order to cure ourselves of these mind viruses we need to first understand, in a simplistic way, some key principles upon which the mind works. Consider the last time you had a dream that was either really pleasant or very bad. You will no doubt recall how on waking you either felt disappointment or relief that the dream was not real. The reason you felt this way is that the part of your mind which was functioning during the dream does not know the difference between truth and reality. The unconscious and subconscious parts of our mind have no idea what is true and what isn’t. It is only the conscious mind which can tell the difference. (I’m not going to delve into debate here about the mental boundaries of spiritual or intuitive phenomena).

Negative mind viruses, as I have defined the term above, have strong similarities to horror movies – or any movie in which bad things happen. We are very visual creatures. These internal mind viruses play a bad movie according to a variety of factors. Many of these mind viruses operate at the unconscious or subconscious level and often conflict with what we want consciously. I might add that can include what we think we want consciously as well. But rather than complicate things unduly, let’s focus on the key point:

We have internal mind viruses in visual format which affect an enormous amount of what we do, and yet we are mostly unaware of them. Many people are totally unaware.

The solution is to be found in the realm of the visual and as you keep reading this blog you will learn more about why this is so, and importantly, how you can find solutions for your own life.

I would also add that what you will learn here, I have personally had in-depth experience of. I have experienced very dramatic change in my thinking; and in my life as a result. I feel so much better than I did earlier in my life because these things just work.

I will write more on this subject in due course….

Why is a mind virus like a computer virus? is a post from: Joy Wizard Blog

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