WII FM – what "radio station" is this and why it's important to you/them.
WII FM?
Any guesses as to what and where this “radio station” is?
It is actually inside everybody’s head; and the name of it is: what’s in it for me (WII FM).
“So what?” you say.
When we focus on the fact that most people are tuned in to what’s in it for them virtually every minute of the day, we can become more aware of ways in which we can enhance our interactions with other people, and guess what? Our own lives also.
You see, it is very easy to blunder through our days primarily focusing upon ourselves, always thinking about things from our perspective. In some respects this is a natural human trait which is based in part on self-preservation, however much of it goes beyond that, creating negative outcomes for ourselves and others.
You have probably noticed that it is very rare to find anyone who is genuinely interested in you and your concerns. This often applies even when you are paying a lot of money, such as for a product or service. You would think that then you would get more careful attention. One of the reasons you don’t, is because the people selling a product or service are very often not really focused on you at all, but on that which they can get out of the transaction themselves. (Commission, kudos, profit).
The art of conversation also produces some excellent examples of where the true focus of people lies. Let me explain….
I recall an occasion when I was sitting on a plane during a aeroplane flight and got talking to a man in the next seat. I hardly said a word, other than commenting appropriately as I listened intently, and asking key questions. The man told me all about his life, his work, his family and interests. At the end of the flight the man told me what a good conversation he had, and that I was a fantastic conversationalist. I thanked him warmly and went on my way. The thing is though, I did not say that much at all, my primary activity was listening attentively. And yet I got called a great conversationalist! I hadn’t really done anything at all to be worthy of such a title. The reason this title was bestowed upon me by my travelling companion was because of what he got out of the situation – he enjoyed talking to me, having someone pay attention to him and monopolising the conversation. He was just tuned into what was in it for him.
No doubt you have noticed that very few people are really interested in listening to you, and how much you enjoy it when you’re able to talk away to your heart’s content.
In some respects, my observations have caused me a level of sadness and disappointment – not from my own perspective, but because of the shallow emptiness that many peoples’ lives exhibit. Going through life as a self focused automaton. They have so much to offer, and so many ways they could increase their care and concern for others. I don’t judge people on this, or look down on them, partly because I was once the same. Some of the reasons why I am not like that today include that I have grown as a person in a genuine sense to be more concerned about others, and that I do have a very firm understanding of the reality that most people really couldn’t care less about others and that it is a waste of time looking to them to any form of succour. Have you ever noticed that no one ever comes to a “pity party”?
An interesting aspect to this whole issue, and one which I expect produces a wry smile in the “cosmos”, is that when we are truly focused upon other people and how we can help them, we actually feel a lot better, and greater blessings in various forms flow into our lives.
Ironically, the very happy Nirvana, that so many people are seeking selfishly, is actually found when we behave unselfishly.
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